At 36 years old, Theodore Redmon, or Teddy, as he’s known to friends and family, is building a new life. A sober life. His journey to get to this point has been filled with highs and lows, devastation and loss, trauma and pain. But now, Teddy is focusing on the future and taking action to create the life he truly wants to be living.
“Before I went in (to treatment), I had a strict routine: wake up, get ready, go to work, go to the gym, come home, and then it was my beer time. Sometimes I’d rush workouts just to get home and have a drink, but now I don’t.”
Teddy started drinking at a young age as a way to cope with trauma. His mother was murdered on Teddy’s 15th birthday. His dad wasn’t in the picture, and the only person Teddy really had was his grandma.
“I used my time in prison to reflect on the man I was and the man I wanted to be when I got home. What prison didn’t do was help me work through the traumas in my past.”
“Ever since I was a young boy, I can remember being in and out of juvenile detention centers, and eventually, in adulthood, that led to prison. My most recent time in prison was a five-year sentence that was a result of my decision to get behind the wheel well above the legal limit, causing an accident that resulted in seriously injuring two people. I used my time in prison to reflect on the man I was and the man I wanted to be when I got home. What prison didn’t do was help me work through the traumas in my past.”
Teddy knew it was time to speak up and ask for help. Teddy recently found the help he needed at Skywood Recovery Center. He says it was at the center where he learned a lot of skills he was lacking, including self-love, “which is what I really needed.” He also met a lot of people, many of whom have remained his friends.
“If people just speak up and reach out for help, they’ll find they aren’t alone.”
“My experience at Skywood put things into perspective. I mean, you have people from all walks of life there who are struggling in the same way. If people just speak up and reach out for help, they’ll find they aren’t alone.”
Skywood also helped Teddy set up a CaringWays campaign online, and his goal was quickly met, paid in full by a partner of the recovery center.
“I don’t think it would’ve been possible for me to go to a recovery program without the financial help. And who knows what I’d be doing right now or what situation I’d be in.”
Teddy says he sought out treatment for himself but also for the sake of his 15-year-old daughter, Aniyah.
“I used to close myself off in my room and just drink until I fell asleep, and my daughter would be alone in her room… but now we spend that time together.”
“Me and my daughter are closer than ever now. I used to close myself off in my room and just drink until I fell asleep, and my daughter would be alone in her room… but now we spend that time together. She’s happy. We’re doing a lot more things together. I took her to her first rock concert; we went to go see wrestling live. I got out of Skywood on a Monday, and I scheduled a helicopter ride for us that Friday. What a celebration! She loved it. She’s always down to try and experience new things.”
Not only is Teddy basking in the tremendous love he has for his daughter, but he’s also embracing a newfound confidence in himself.
“I just started a second job, which I’ve wanted for a long time. I work at Planet Fitness now. I was like, ‘Oh, I’ll never get it.’ But I went for it, and I nailed it in the interview. I’ve gone to the gym for the last eight years. It’s a massive part of my life. Seeing myself get stronger gives me a boost of confidence. Now, I get to work out for free.”
Teddy is focused on the future now. He’s working towards owning his own home, and in a few years, he plans to host a high school graduation party for his daughter, “because finishing high school is something I really want her to do.” As he puts it, he’s making progress each day toward “building a better and more stable life.”